Why do so many people—with incredible conversions—parent children who leave Christianity? History overflows with great saints whose offspring lose faith:
Samuel was a mighty prophet of God. His sons were a mess.
David was a man after God’s own heart. His children were a disaster.
Harvard, Yale, and Princeton were founded on the gospel. Now they lead the opposition.
I’ve witnessed dozens of families, churches, and ministries, who began with a furious fire of love for God whose next generation couldn’t blow a smoke ring.
Our children lose fire because of our mother-of-all-assumptions; we assume the gospel. Mack Stiles, in Marks of the Messenger, explains how we believers lose the gospel:
The gospel is Accepted —->
The gospel is Assumed —->
The gospel is Confused —->
The gospel is Lost
Stiles concludes like this: “For any generation to lose the gospel is tragic. But the generation that assumes the gospel … is most responsible for the loss of the gospel.
We are that generation. We are most responsible. Who has bewitched us?
Forgetting Conversion
It’s virtually 100% predictable that we are converted by one message and then preach another. We are converted by the unbelievable hope of God’s love for those who don’t deserve it, but we lecture on behavior. Everyone I know does it, even when we don’t want to. Including me. And I bet including you.
A friend of mine lived wildly until the age of thirty. He slept with scores of women, drank an ocean of beer, and was a self-admitted, abusive jerk. In a desperate time of loneliness, he heard the hope of the gospel and talked with Jesus. He became a pastor.
He was converted by grace, yet his sermons nagged and scolded:
- You should never tell coarse jokes or cuss.
- You should be generous, and that includes making sure you tip 20%.
- You should always bring your Bible to church.
- You should watch Fox News and never CNN. (I’m serious.)
Day after day, week after week, he proclaimed the Nike gospel, “Just do it!”
The Presumption of Assumption
One day I asked him why his messages concentrated on behavior and not the gospel. He replied, “My congregation knows the gospel. Now they just have to know what to do.” He assumed the gospel but wondered why his shrinking congregation was so joyless.
His own moral life was empowered by a gospel-fueled heart, but he scolded, rebuked, and ragged on behavior. In his personal life, he remembered, “What DID Jesus do?” yet he publicly harangued and lectured WWJD, “What WOULD Jesus do?”
Martin Luther wrote in his Commentary on Galatians,
Continually listen to the gospel that teaches not what I ought to do (for that is the job of the law), but what Jesus Christ has done for me. For that is the gospel.
The gospel is the primary article of all Christian truth. It is most necessary that we should know this article well, teach it to others, and beat it into our heads continually” (slightly edited).
The gospel is God’s love first, behavior second. Moralism doesn’t reject the gospel, it just forgets the gospel and emphasizes behavior. The Gospel is God’s initiation first, then our response. The heresy of the Pharisee is our initiation first, then God’s response.
We need to beat the gospel into our own heads continually, because we constantly assume it, confuse it, and lose it. And if we do, so will our kids.
Read the full article: https://beliefsoftheheart.com/2021/03/24/why-do-our-children-leave-christianity/
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